Archive for September, 2011

Buried Emotions Come Out with 10Q

Friday, September 30th, 2011

Question 3: Think about a major milestone that happened with your family this past year. How has this affected you?

The very emotional pictures of families of Sept. 11 victims on the anniversary of the attacks prompted many people to think about their own families and what their parents, siblings, aunts and uncles mean to them. Did it bring you closer? Did you call your family members on the 9/11 anniversary? In the past, today’s question has made people really reexamine and rethink their relationships to family, friends and partners. “I completely underestimated my parents and everything they have been providing for me all of these years. I’ve definitely become a lot closer to my family because of this realization,” wrote one 10Qer last year in answer to the question.Others just wrote of important milestones: “The girl I’ve been dating long-distance off and on for four years moved cross-country to live with me at last,” wrote a 10Qer triumphantly. What will the question do for you?

How Much Does a Regret Weigh?

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

Question 2: Is there something that you wish you had done differently this past year? Alternatively, is there something you’re especially proud of from this past year?

We all have regrets. We just don’t all share them. The second question of this year’s 10Q project, like the second question of last year’s and the year before, deals with these regrets. Is there something that you wish you had done differently the past year? Answers often focus on family—poor treatment of a cousin, anger toward a spouse—or, barring that, friends. Sometimes the responses are more philosophical. Last year, one woman wrote that she wished she could have learned to see every negative comment as an opportunity to sympathize with the things about the world that oppress others. But you certainly don’t have to be that open-minded. Alternatively, the question can address something in the last year that made you especially proud. Studies have shown that in answering this question, pessimists outnumber optimists three to one.

The Wall Street Journal

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

Social Network for One: Website Offers Visitors Chance to Reflect

A website called 10Q wants you to share a bit of yourself. Before you raise your arms and scream “not another social network,” hear this one out. The intended audience is not the Twitterverse, nor is it Facebook’s 800 million users. The intended audience is you… a year from now.

Starting today and running for the next nine days, 10Q is inviting people to its website to answer a question. Ten days, ten different questions. What kind of questions? It could be something like, “Describe a significant experience that has happened in the past year.” Or “Is there something that you wish you had done differently this past year?” Or even “How would you like to improve yourself and your life next year.” In short, questions that you can’t really answer in a tweet.

Read the full blog post here

Philadelphia Jewish Voice

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

In an era where most reflection happens publicly in 140 characters or less, the 10Q project provides a private, deeper online forum for personal reflection beyond the waffles you had for breakfast.

Timed to coincide with the Jewish New Year, traditionally a time of introspection and self-reflection, 10Q is a unique project that, started today, will email participants of all backgrounds a question a day about the year that’s past and the year to come. After the 10-day period, the answers are sent into a digital vault. A year later, the answers are returned to participants and the process begins again.

“Thanks to new technologies like texting and Twitter, people have more opportunities than ever to express themselves, but fewer than ever to express themselves well,” said 10Q co-founder Ben Greenman, a New Yorker editor. “What 10Q wants people to do is what people should want to do for themselves — to reflect on life without worrying about status updates.”

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Time to Get Your 10Q On.

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

Question 1: Describe a significant experience that has happened in the past year. How did it affect you? Are you grateful? Relieved? Resentful? Inspired?

Hey 10Q-ers,

Welcome to 10Q day 1. If you’ve never done it before, 10Qers of years past will tell you, the experience hits on several levels. Just pondering a question and writing down an answer can be a satisfying experience in the moment, and sometimes in ways that aren’t immediately apparent. Couple that with what you’ll get when you receive your answers back next year, and then fast forward ten years, and suddenly you’ll have a lovely slice of your last decade. Perfect for self reflection, perfect for sharing with those you love, if you so wish. So, while we live in a super fast paced world and sometimes the prospect of slowing down and going inside for even fifteen minutes or so fills us with fear, take the leap, schedule the time and just see what comes. It may surprise you. And it might be one of the best things you’ve done all week.

And so to the first question, what was a significant experience in your life this past year? Looking at the answers from the past few years of 10Q, it’s clear that this question means very different things to different people. Last year, one person shared, “My father decided to retire from farming earlier than we anticipated. I am partly grateful and relieved as his safety was worrying me, but I also concerned about how he will fill his days without driving my mother barmy.” People also tackled life and death issues: “My first real boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident. It was hard to get past, it still is hard to get past, but somehow every morning I wake up and get through the day.” Sometimes the most significant experiences were the small ones that illustrated something bigger, as in the following entry: “I learned how to ride a bike, and I’m 15.  I did it with the help of my best friend, not my parents or sister.  I felt fully independent, no helmet, around and around the court.  Looking back on it, I felt so strong.” Sometimes, the significant event was the fact that nothing significant occurred at all. Then you have to ask yourself, are you ok with that? Do you need to push yourself in any way to create more significant events in your life or do you simply need to re-frame the way you are looking at your life? So, take a moment today and ask yourself to ponder something that happened in your world over the past year and ask yourself what it meant to you? Often pondering how you reacted to a certain situation is as important as the actual experience at hand.

Jewish Journal

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

10Q Project: Answer life’s big questions online … Then reread next year

It might seem odd that 10Q, a project bent on promoting deep personal reflection and penetrating spiritual insight, would engage Joel Stein, a somewhat nihilistic humor columnist, as one of its endorsers.

“I find it hard to believe that anyone in our present society needs to spend any more time thinking about themselves,” said Stein, who writes for Time magazine, about the 10-day online journal exercise that is taking place this year between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, asking participants to answer “life’s big questions.”

“All I do is write about myself — maybe that’s why I’m less interested,” Stein said.

The 10Q project was conceived and organized through Reboot, a countercultural network of artists and innovators, and is, in its essence, an online version of cheshbon ha-nefesh, the ritual “accounting of the soul,” that Jews undergo each year during the 10 days of repentance. This iteration, however, is organized around 10 major questions, the answers to which are submitted electronically, then are secured in an online vault for one year, to be returned to participants on the eve of the following High Holy Days. It is also, the organizers say, designed for a universal audience (Reboot strangely employs the term “ecumenical”). To that end, Reboot has been promoting the project through bicoastal events and, yes, even celebrity Tweets, promising to deepen High Holy Days reflection beyond 140 characters, the Twitter limit.

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Utne Reader

Tuesday, September 27th, 2011

Let’s Play 10 Questions

Would you like to talk to your past self and compare notes on how your life is shaping up, be reminded of your goals, take stock in your blessings?

The world often moves too quickly for reflection, and the responsibilities of the everyday can keep us from life’s larger questions. This week, Reboot (the group behind the National Day of Unplugging) wants us to reconnect to self-reflection with a free online program called 10Q.

Starting tomorrow, September 28, people who sign up for 10Q will receive one question a day for 10 days. After participants answer the questions, they submit them to a secure online vault. “One year later,” the folks at 10Q say, “the vault will open and your answers will wing their way back to your email inbox for private reflection.”

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All that Poetry and All Those Songs

Tuesday, September 27th, 2011

I’m begining to have a backlog of posts I keep meaning to write. The problem is by the time I get home, I’m tired of writing on the computer and don’t feel like blogging. Instead, I watch youtube videos until it’s prime time TV hour(s). Speaking of which, I’ve been watching so much cable reality shows (a la, “Keeping Up with the Kardashians”), it’s kind of weird to watch sit-coms again.

Um, anyway, since I haven’t written in a while, I thought I’d share something I got in my email today. A year ago I did this thing called 10Q, where you answer 10 questions over the course of 10 days, and have it sent to you a year later.

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Drunk on Opportunity

Tuesday, September 27th, 2011

A few years ago I started answering 10 questions about myself and the world every September.  The following year, those answers pop up in my inbox.  I love this project (10Q) and it’s made me realize that 1) I know myself pretty well and 2) Many of my feelings and beliefs about the world are consistent year after year, but some things do change.  It’s cool to see. Like last year I said one of my goals was to live healthier and “cleaner” one step at a time, and I’ve definitely taken steps to clean up my diet and lifestyle.

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Reflect Now. You May Be Surprised By What You Find.

Monday, September 26th, 2011
Here at 10Q HQ we are getting lots of feedback through Facebook and email from 10Qers who have received their 2010 answers from the vault. They are amazed to see how different their thinking is and excited to see where they were at last year. Some 10Qers were inspired to take action now to act on their goals of last year before the calendar year is over.
Beth Mencis Bacall reflected: “I just received and read mine. I must say it is disappointing to think about how little action I have taken in the past year on things that I know are important to my growth and happiness.”
Angelica Jayne Taggart wrote: “I received mine yesterday…I was disappointed – however, I realized that I still have a few months until the end of this year — so I’m getting on it!!”

Jan Schwartz stated: “I actually felt pretty good about most of the actions I’ve taken, save one or two. Those will no doubt find there way into the answers for this year.”

Annette Gold commented: “It was a cool surprise to get my email yesterday! One of the things I wrote was that I wanted to get back to a Size 10. I was roughly a Size 16/18 when I filled in the form last year. I have since lost 40 pounds and have gotten into a Size 10!! Voila. I also said that I wanted to be in a romantic relationship and I believe I am…albeit long distance…with a guy I met on JDate. 🙂 Shana Tova!!”

Lisette van Elst wrote: “ Very pleased with the email yesterday. To read back the goals you make for yourself. The outcome is very positive! Looking forward doing it again for this year.”

Christopher Whalen reflected: “It was quite strange reading the email yesterday – very different from viewing a photo of myself from a year ago; more like reading an old diary entry. It’s me, but it’s also not me. Slightly embarrassing. I’m always optimistic my love life will change, but it never seems to. Still have many of the same goals.”

C.J. Ellisson wrote: “I found it fascinating to see how some of my goals were the same and others were reached easier than I thought.”

Victor Owoyele said: “‎90% of my expectation were fulfilled including a wish for my current national president to elected President of Nigeria. I enjoyed the time spent reflecting.”

The 2011 process begins in just two days. So get ready to reflect again.

Start thinking about your regrets, big things that happened in your family, global events that shaped you this year, spiritual or emotional realizations you’ve had. You will find that you enjoy the pause, the time to really examine your feelings, experiences and beliefs – beyond just what you post publicly to your friends and followers on Facebook or Twitter.

Get ready to get your 10Q on.